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I think I’ve reached a point in my life where forgiving people comes to me naturally, not because people haven’t hurt me but because I don’t want to spend the entirety of my life carrying the weight of what people have done to me.

But the truth is , I haven’t forgotten. Not because I bear a grudge but because I remember. I remember how certain situations made me feel, the conversations that kept me up at night, the apologies that came too late and the times I had to pick myself up because someone I trusted had let me down.

There’s a huge difference between holding on to resentment and acknowledging that something happened. You can genuinely forgive someone without removing the memory of their actions.

Think about a broken glass. Does regretting what you did magically put it back together? Does saying sorry restore it to the exact state it was in before it broke? Not necessarily and I think the same applies to relationships.

There’s an idiom that says, “Don’t cry over spilt milk.” Fine. But just because the milk has been spilt doesn’t mean we should pretend it wasn’t. Yes, crying won’t put it back in the glass, but acknowledging that it was spilt is the first step towards cleaning up the mess.

And I think that’s where the real conversation about forgiveness should begin. It’s not just about saying sorry and expecting everything to return to normal. It’s about acknowledging the damage you caused, taking responsibility for your actions, and making a genuine and conscious effort not to repeat them.

Forgiveness doesn’t automatically guarantee reconciliation and rebuilding a relationship definitely requires more than forgiveness. I mean, words are a good place to start, but actions are what eventually rebuild trust.

So, yes, I’ve forgiven you. I genuinely hope life treats you well. I hold no grudges and I’m certainly not interested in revisiting the past but I haven’t forgotten, and maybe I don’t have to because sometimes, forgiveness is for your peace. Remembering is how you protect it.